The terrible world of the mentally ill

One of my children has a pretty major mental illness. She's an adult, so there is really nothing we can do to help her. When she goes off her meds, she gets so paranoid and psychotic, that she truly believes everyone is corrupt and out to get her. She goes on street drugs and does all she can to keep on them. She has broken many laws, and been caught a few times. She was on parole in Connecticut, but without her meds. She started calling us asking us to take her son. She said her fiance was using crack and watching porn with her son in the apartment. It all became a web of intrigue involving her parole officer and the managers of several different houses she was moved in and out of, ending this morning with her being re-entered into the jail. There was no other place they could put her and still keep her safe. I also have another daughter with the same diagnosis. She gets to a similar point in her illness. Unfortunately, there is no place for us to go to to keep her safe. The only way a person can be admitted to a psychiatric hospital is either by their agreement or if they are a danger to themselves or someone else. I wish there was a way to commit someone by family (parent, significant other, adult child) for a period of observation. Say 72 hours. My one daughter had to be re-admitted to jail because there was no legal reason to admit her against her will to a psych unit, which is where she really needs to be. I totally get the idea about not being able to say "I want my husband to be admitted to the psych ward because I'm tired of him not putting his dirty socks in the hamper." but there are times when family members can see a person heading towards dangerous territory. How many suicides could be avoided? How much domestic abuse could be stopped? When a person descends into psychosis, or major depression, or otherwise loses touch with reality, we sit here with our hands tied and can't to anything to help them. The first daughter I mentioned has two children. I have had custody of the oldest since she was just over 1 year old. The other is a son that is 10 years old. He has had such a difficult time, but I have not been in a position to try to get custody. I have had to just trust the Goddess to watch over him. I send energy to protect him and I do candle magic for his highest good. So what is the parent of a mentally ill adult to do? It's frustrating to know that if these two would just take their meds every day they could have a very normal life. I have to take a handful of pills every day, I know that it's expensive and annoying to have to remember to take all the different medications at the various times of the day. It's somehow almost belittling to know that the medications control the quality of my life, it's not totally in my hands anymore. I am dependent on them to be able to even type at this moment. I am filled with frustration. I want to help my kids, even though they are adult. I want to mother them and take care of them, just like I did when they were young. I want to kiss it and make it all better.